{"id":16987,"date":"2016-11-21T19:23:14","date_gmt":"2016-11-21T18:23:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/?p=16987"},"modified":"2017-10-29T12:13:57","modified_gmt":"2017-10-29T11:13:57","slug":"prosba-je-dar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/prosba-je-dar\/","title":{"rendered":"PROSBA JE DAR"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Kdy\u017e jsem sly\u0161ela poprv\u00e9, \u017ee je prosba DAR, nerozum\u011bla jsem tomu. J\u00e1 n\u011bkoho o n\u011bco \u017e\u00e1d\u00e1m a t\u00edm mu d\u00e1v\u00e1m dar?<\/p>\n<p>Pochopila jsem to a\u017e pozd\u011bji.<br \/>\nAno. <strong>Je to dar jasnosti<\/strong>. Jasn\u011b a konkr\u00e9tn\u011b formulovan\u00e1 prosba je dar, proto\u017ee nen\u00ed pochyb o tom, o co \u017eadatel pros\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>V\u0161\u00edm\u00e1m si toho kolem sebe, jak neum\u00edme jasn\u011b \u0159\u00edct, co chceme:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>do\u0161lo kafe<\/li>\n<li>nepln\u00edme pl\u00e1n<\/li>\n<li>zase z\u016fstalo n\u00e1dob\u00ed po j\u00eddle na stole<\/li>\n<li>dohodla jsem se s kolegou na pen\u011bz\u00edch, m\u00e9 \u010d\u00edslo \u00fa\u010dtu je xxxxxx<\/li>\n<li>nen\u00ed dopln\u011bn\u00e9 zbo\u017e\u00ed v reg\u00e1lech<\/li>\n<li>zase ta sch\u016fze za\u010dala pozd\u011b<\/li>\n<li>je tu na\u0161lap\u00e1no<\/li>\n<li>nen\u00ed posekan\u00e1 zahrada<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Jejich auto\u0159i ale ne\u0159\u00edkaj\u00ed, co po n\u00e1s cht\u011bj\u00ed<\/strong>. <strong>Tato nejasnost je mo\u017en\u00fdm zdrojem konflikt\u016f, proto\u017ee otev\u00edr\u00e1 prostor pro domn\u011bnky.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nebo pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1me jinou formu \u017e\u00e1dosti. \u0158\u00edk\u00e1me, co nechceme v domn\u011bn\u00ed, \u017ee se ten druh\u00fd dovt\u00edp\u00ed, a ud\u011bl\u00e1 co chceme. Je to p\u0159ece tak jasn\u00e9:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>nechci po tob\u011b po\u0159\u00e1d d\u00e1vat \u0161pinav\u00e9 pono\u017eky do pr\u00e1deln\u00edho ko\u0161e<\/li>\n<li>nechci kv\u016fli tob\u011b po\u0159\u00e1d chodit pozd\u011b do pr\u00e1ce, kdy\u017e pozd\u011b vst\u00e1v\u00e1\u0161<\/li>\n<li>nechci za v\u00e1s po\u0159\u00e1d ukl\u00edzet, nejsem va\u0161e slu\u017eka<\/li>\n<li>nechci se tahat s t\u011b\u017ek\u00fdmi n\u00e1kupy<\/li>\n<li>nechci po tob\u011b po\u0159\u00e1d m\u00fdt \u0161pinavou vanu, kdy\u017e se jdu koupat<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>I zde auto\u0159i ne\u0159\u00edkaj\u00ed jasn\u011b, co cht\u011bj\u00ed a zase se otev\u00edr\u00e1 prostor pro domn\u011bnky a mo\u017en\u00e9 konflikty.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201eJe dobr\u00e9, abychom vyj\u00e1d\u0159ili to, co si p\u0159ejeme, sp\u00ed\u0161e ne\u017e to, co si nep\u0159ejeme. Kdy\u017e se prosba formuluje negativn\u011b, lid\u00e9 \u010dasto p\u0159esn\u011b nev\u011bd\u00ed, co se od nich skute\u010dn\u011b \u017e\u00e1d\u00e1. Negativn\u00ed prosba krom\u011b toho \u010dasto vyvol\u00e1v\u00e1 odpor.<\/em><br \/>\n<em> Kdy\u017e po\u017e\u00e1d\u00e1me jasn\u00fdm, pozitivn\u00edm a konkr\u00e9tn\u00edm zp\u016fsobem, bude z\u0159ejm\u00e9, co si skute\u010dn\u011b p\u0159ejeme.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n<p>\u0158\u00edk\u00e1 Marshall Rosenberg, autor Nen\u00e1siln\u00e9 komunikace<\/p>\n<p>M\u00e1me mo\u017enost d\u00e1vat lidem DAR. Je jen na n\u00e1s, jak t\u00e9to mo\u017enosti vyu\u017eijeme.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kdy\u017e jsem sly\u0161ela poprv\u00e9, \u017ee je prosba DAR, nerozum\u011bla jsem tomu. J\u00e1 n\u011bkoho o n\u011bco \u017e\u00e1d\u00e1m a t\u00edm mu d\u00e1v\u00e1m dar? Pochopila jsem to a\u017e pozd\u011bji. Ano. Je to dar jasnosti. Jasn\u011b a konkr\u00e9tn\u011b formulovan\u00e1 prosba je dar, proto\u017ee nen\u00ed pochyb o tom, o co \u017eadatel pros\u00ed. V\u0161\u00edm\u00e1m si toho kolem sebe, jak neum\u00edme jasn\u011b [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16987","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16987","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16987"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16987\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17469,"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16987\/revisions\/17469"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16987"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16987"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jklimesova.cz\/uvod\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16987"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}